questions and answers

Dear disability doctor,

 

I am a quad, and for that reason, my family thinks I need care twenty four seven.

I live in a nursing home which I hate.  Worst of all, until reasontly, my sister would not even let me handle my check book. I am not lacking in mental ability, and just want to get on with my life. Signed frustrated.

 

Dear frustrated,

 

Before others can accept you fully, you must accept yourself. While life is not fair, you can know that God is good and that His heart breaks at your suffering.  First and fore  most therefore, you can know that you are accepted by him. Groww in this acceptance.

 

Secondly, fight for your rights. If you have to, get an aturney. If this seems impossible because of income, go to legal aid.

 

Thirdly, increase in growth as a person. Have new goals, activities and friendships.Don't allow yourself to believe that you can't win in this situation, withh God's help.

 

Dear disability doctor,

 

Sometimes because of my disability I feel like a burden to family and friends. They have never done anything to reinforce this feeling, but many times they have gone out of there way to assist me. What can I do to fight this? Signed, alone.

 

Dear alone,

 

First of all, stop feeling sorry for yourself. There are many disabled people who have gone, or are going through similar sircomstances. Growing up with a disability, I had to fight many of the same feelings.  My life was for ever changed though, when I found out how much God loved me.  

 

 Also you have to realize, that there  are special things that only you can contribute.   Know that only you can share these special gifts. Make a list of things you can do, and ways in which you can give.

 

Visit nursing homes, hospitals and other places where people feel alone. Just sharing with others, will relieve much of the emptyness that you are experiencing. If transportation proves to be a difficulty, visit with home bound and other persons on the phone. Many houses of worship or community service agencies, can put you into contact with hurting people.

 

If you would like to contact the disability doctor, e-mail me at tsburdick@msn.com.